7 secrets I've learned about marriage over the last 7 years

It’s July 7th, which means we’re celebrating 7 years of married life! ✨ 

In honor of our 𝙂𝙊𝙇𝘿𝙀𝙉 anniversary…

Here’s the full-length wedding video from our special day, 7/7/12:

And, here are my 7 secrets to a happy and healthy marriage:

1. Put 𝙂𝙊𝘿 first, your partner second. God is our foundation—everything else radiates out. It’s important to fill yourself up first spiritually, so you can fill your partner up and pour onto others.

2. Surround yourselves with a 𝙏𝙍𝙄𝘽𝙀 that will cheer you on when you’re up, and pick you up when you’re down. Through our best seasons and our worst seasons, our family and community have been rocks and always there to get us through!

3. It takes a 𝙏𝙀𝘼𝙈. Give and take, meet in the middle, divvy up tasks and responsibilities, so all of the burdens don’t fall on one person’s shoulders. Compromise with grace and work to understand the other person’s perspective. Al has taught me so much about this. I’m better because of him and we’re an even better team together.

4. Learn each other’s 𝙇𝙊𝙑𝙀 𝙇𝘼𝙉𝙂𝙐𝘼𝙂𝙀𝙎, Enneagram, or Myers–Briggs Type. Knowing these will give you the tools to better understand how the other person gains energy, the motivation behind why they (and we) do what we do, and how to fill up each other’s love tank before it’s empty.

5. Work hard, but 𝙋𝙇𝘼𝙔 harder. As we reflect on years of investing in our careers and building upon work milestones, don’t take yourself or job so seriously that you miss out on investing in each other. Be present, enjoy “normal times” together, and continue to spark childlike awe and wonder.

6. 𝙀𝙓𝙋𝙇𝙊𝙍𝙀 individual passions as well as activities you can do together, and support one another while doing it. Al has his creative outlets and I have mine. He has preferences and hobbies that give him life, and I have mine. It’s been fun seeing each other develop our own crafts, and we’ve loved exploring and dabbling in new ones together.

7. 𝙋𝙐𝙍𝙎𝙐𝙀 each other and carve out time for just the two of you. Plan and protect date nights, take weekend getaways, and plan adventures to new places. These are the memories and experiences we look back on most and cherish more than anything.

Photo: @monicaalberty